Advice for Single Women

Advice for Single Women by Jamal and Natasha

We know that when you are waiting on The One God has for you, you are guaranteed to run into people who are not God's will.

Anyone who comes along with potential, but does not align with God’s purpose for your life is known as a counterfeit.

Counterfeits appear to seem right, but in reality they are fake and misleading. Satan sends counterfeits into our lives in order to throw us off track from God’s plan.

An example from scripture is the serpent that is sent to Eve in the garden. The serpent makes an appearance very early on and goes to work from the beginning.

God’s plan for humanity was interrupted because Eve was enticed by the serpent and believed his lies, that ultimately led to destruction and death.

Throughout the Bible we see other examples of counterfeits, as well as warnings against involving ourselves with them.

Proverbs 16:25 says “There is a way which seems right to a man and appears straight before him, but at the end of it is the way of death.” Something can seem right, but in the end be a relationship that kills your purpose and future.

Here are the four stages of a falling for a counterfeit:

1. Attraction. Attraction is the first step and most dangerous because it will open the door to further deceit. Often times our attraction toward someone can be based off of lust that has taken root in our heart and we can become attracted to someone’s physical appearance, as well as the accessories that come with them.

In one woman's experience she quickly became attracted to his appearance as well as his money, car, home, materials, and lifestyle. I was very attracted to his possessions which later on allowed me to realize that lust for worldly desires was the main cause of my attraction.

2. Blindness. Once a strong attraction develops you may begin to ignore any warning signs that this person is not right for you because you have become emotionally attached. Having a strong emotional attachment will blind you to the warning signs, which will then lead you to become desensitized to them.

Being blinded to warning signs due to your emotions leads to a false reality. The guy you date may send many warning signs that he is not right for you but- the things that attract you to him, will blind you to the red flags that you notice

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Because of your attraction to him, and the way he makes you feel, you will ignore the red flags and pursue a relationship with him based on of the strong feelings that have taken over.

3. Commitment. After your emotions take control and you become blinded to the red flags, commitment follows.

Men will do nice things for women such as take them out on dates or buy them expensive gifts. Because of the things he has done for you, you may begin to feel like you owe him yourself. You may start to feel pressured and give into things you know that he wants. Only too late will you start to regret it.

4.Entrapment. Over time, more things about this man will be exposed -- who he truly is will be brought to the surface. The red flags that you ignored earlier will become alarms that are going off in your mind.

Commitment will turn into a relationship that you become trapped in. You will become so emotionally tied to him that you feel like you can’t live without him, even though you realize he is not good for you. Before you can extricate yourself from the relationship, you must stop ignoring the red flags.

When you realize that your lifestyles do not match up, that he is not what you want, that he does not value you as he should, that he is attempting to lead you to sin instead of drawing you closer to God, you must step away from him.

Counterfeits are the #1 reason people don't end up marrying the person God has for them! Don't allow yourself to be ensnared in a relationship that God cannot bless.