Why Are Narcissists Ruthless?

Advice from Someone Who Learned the Hard Way

We live in a time when the vestiges of faith are considered to be unimportant by many people. We live in an epoch of time when deception is easily perpetrated because we have lost our standard of TRUTH.

This comes as a caution to those who are searching for someone with whom to share life, someone to love.

Just as everything that glitters is not gold, neither is everyone who presents a pleasant introduction one who can be trusted to be a loving and honorable friend.

Be careful.

Why Are Narcissists Ruthless?

They drive you down as far as they can.

They wipe their feet on your back.

They don’t quit.

They are mean because when they were little, their caretakers didn’t love them. One or both parents didn’t care about them unless they were in public showing them off.

Behind closed doors the parent or parents were horrible. Perhaps they weren’t fed, or other physical or emotional needs weren’t met. They felt despised. They were mistreated in many ways, and the hurt of the abuse stayed with them through childhood and into adulthood.

They became mean and uncaring. They acted as their parents treated them. They became dark, soulless and ruthless; they became who they hated--their cold, unloving, uncaring parent(s).

Early in life, they realized no one would accept them if they acted as they felt, so they altered the person they presented to the world; they made up a new person who was charming, giving, caring--someone society thinks is "a nice guy."

He is someone who serves his community, works diligently at his job as well as propagating his image. When he is with his family, the inner circle of his existence, he becomes very dark and evil; he allows the person he really is, the person he submerges beneath his well-crafted façade to emerge.

Virtually the only place a narcissist will allow the ugliest aspects of his persona to be in evidence will be in the house with a significant other. He will beat down anyone who cares for him with his words.

He may threaten, he may rage, he may be jealous of any attention his victim gets. He will do whatever he can to prevent the one he has trapped in his web of control from having normalcy in any other relationship. He will do this by isolating that individual from outside contacts.

He may use physical violence or verbal intimidation. It is easy for him to be cruel because he despises his wife or girlfriend or children. He hates them all.

When he is in public, he is Mr. GREAT GUY -- just as his parents were with him -- all for show. He hates who he is, but he does not want help. He gets high by being mean.

If you are in the company of someone who evidences the characteristics described here, extricate yourself from the relationship before it becomes impossible to do so.

The first step toward requiring respect from the people in your life is to respect yourself. The first step toward respecting yourself is realizing that you are precious to JESUS, that HE died for you because HE loves you.

In that realization is your ability to respect yourself and to seek honorable, godly people with whom to spend your time; with whom to spend your life, to whom to give your love.